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How to Cope with Losing Someone You Love.

Losing someone you love is an event that most of us will likely encounter and experience once or thrice our lifetime. Life is finite and the time we have with our loved ones is something that we have no control over.  So for most of us, when we lose someone (or even something) who we care deeply about is very painful and it takes us a lot longer to recuperate from the emotions swirling in our hearts and minds.

For emotionally strong people, they may be able to cope in a few months time but even so it is still a difficult experience to endure alone. Having a person to help you with coping from this ordeal is also very helpful because aside from the difficult emotions and sadness that we are experiencing, the loss of a loved one also brings forth legal matters that needs to be taken care of, just like in cases where there’s a last will and testament involved. In this kind of situation, someone should be able to give you the right advice and best choice on how to move forward, and one that you can consider is a probate lawyer. Probate lawyers are easy to find, there are Sydney probate, in Melbourne, Brisbane and even in other cities like New York and London that will be able to help you with that.
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Though, everyone handles themselves differently, but there comes a point wherein you also have to heal yourself. Here are some things you need to understand when you are trying to deal with the loss of a loved one.

1. In some cases, there are people who will deny themselves a chance to just let go of their emotion. All the pent up sadness, frustration or even anger is toxic when it builds up inside of you. There are times even when you cannot even comprehend what you are feeling because one emotion comes after another. But you need to accept this because it’s okay. This is only normal. You need to allow these feelings because it can be quite harmful for your emotional well-being if you keep on trying to control all of them at once.

2. A support system is beneficial because these people, either a relative or a close friend, can give you the emotional support and stability you need in overcoming this event in your life. You will need them even when you say otherwise and wish to be left alone.

3. As mentioned before, you will be barraged with emotions and you may be wondering why you are taking longer than others to recover. But don’t worry yourself over much of it, because the grieving process is something that we do individually. It’s a personal route that we each do differently and it all depends on our behaviour, our personality, and our coping mechanism.

4. Healing is a gradual thing. Healing from the loss of a loved one cannot be hurried or even forced by anyone, yourself included. It’s going to take time, but that’s only natural. No major wound ever heals quickly in over a day. Whatever your process of healing is, it is important to remind yourself to be patient because there is no normal timetable for recovering from losing someone you love.

Moving on can be extremely difficult but no matter what happens from here on, be good and kind to yourself and to those people who support you, and always try to be stronger each day.

1 replies:

ALittleKiran said...

I actually read this really amazing book called Mindfulness & The Journey of Bereavement by Peter Bridgewater that really helped me make sense of what I was feeling. I highly recommend it.

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